In a time where there are more dating apps and websites than ever we got to know Eileen Fisher. A VIP matchmaker for Elite Connections International and relationship expert based here in New York and who has been setting up couples for what seems to her, like forever.
We fell in love with Eileen’s passion for love and romance as we discussed the good and bad of dating apps, the perfect date scenario and her most valuable advice.
You went from working in NYC’s Garment District to match-making. That’s quite a change! How did that happen?
I always knew I was good at matching people, it came easy, I just didn’t realize I could take what came easy and make it a job. I was matching my customers up when I was in the garment center. I started long before this job. I got my college roommate married and it was just fun to go up to people and say are you single, and if so, make a match.
You are a partner in Elite Connections International. Can you tell us a bit about what you do and how you got involved?
Elite is a premier matchmaking company. I saw an opportunity, took it and ran New York.
What are the sorts of things you look for when deciding whether two people would be a good match?
When I am matching two people, of course I have to think about looks but I have to listen to what the core of what they are missing in their life is, and that can help someone find their partner. I also have to think about where one is in their life and make sure it is an even field and that they can enjoy their journey together.
Do you believe there is a best time of the year to meet/date people?
I don’t think there is a good time of year. I tell everyone everyday, when you go out you never know who you can meet. Start with a smile. The big holidays actually hurt to those who don’t have anyone and society makes it such a big deal. No one should just buy someone flowers because its Valentine’s day. No one should feel alone if they are not with someone on New Year’s Eve. Every day is a chance encounter.
What is a perfect date to you?
I feel the perfect date is when two people can put their guards down and enjoy themselves and try to give the date a chance. On a first date, someone could be nervous and it can be hard to tell how the date went. This is where I come in. The third story. and you would be so surprised on how many didn’t realize the date went well. So, the perfect date is going with the right mindset and taking the CHANCE.
Do you believe dating apps are as effective as physically going out to meet new people?
OMG I love the question. I hate apps not because I am jealous because apps are like magazines, one is always searching and searching for something better. On an app, you never see if the photo is recent and anyone can describe themselves with 30 different adjectives. When you are physically out at least you see what you are meeting and get a chance to hear what someone is really about.
Do you think technology, has positive or negative impacts on relationships today?
I think it is so bad. I think it is fake and people make others feel bad. Do you ever see anyone post photos of arguments? It is not always truthful and you MUST be able to really see and hear people.
If you could give one piece of advice to our readers, who may be looking for love, what would it be?
Open your eyes and open your heart, you never know, the best chance at love could be in front of you but because he/she has a checklist and wants somebody who is tall or thin you could be missing out on your potential best friend/partner.
Here at BELLA, our tagline is Beauty Defined by You. What does beauty mean to you?
It’s funny because I work on this on myself every day, for example like working out or experimenting with new make-up. However, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, beauty is different to everyone.
We absolutely loved getting to know Eileen. You can keep up to date with her by following her Instagram @heartmatchme!