Lesson Learned: You Can Rise Above Your Fears

If you’ve been reading my posts, you know I am passionate about connecting women to other awesome people and products. And if you’re a mom, you know I am all for connecting you to things that simply make it easier for us to do the hard work we do.

The truth of why I love connecting to others is because through those connections, I was able deal with postpartum depression 3 1/2 years ago. 

That’s right, the support and encouragement from other strong, beautiful women in my life, was how I was able to move forward at a very dark time in my life. 

I was able to ‘grow up’ and I learned that I am capable of handling more than I ever thought myself capable of. Lesson learned: I rose above my fears.

Another truth is that since, I cannot get through my day, without those connections. It’s why I started the Chica Movement, to celebrate women who are  living with a Caring, Hermosa, Inspiring and Can do Attitude.

More and more, we have to be able to champion each other, root for each other’s successes and not delight in one another’s failures.

Many of us have fears, but we also have dreams and aspire to do great things in our lives. You need to know that you are not alone and that another woman’s lesson, can be just what you needed to hear to help you move forward in your life.

Here are other lessons learned from some amazing Chicas in my circle:

“You can always do ‘a little bit more’ … you cannot sweat the small stuff!! Plurk: play while you work…have fun!” Lynette Barbieri

“I have learned that being in business FOR myself, does not mean I should be in business BY myself.  It is important to learn how to delegate, learn from others, and to build your team.”  Dylan Glanzer

“I have learned as a women entrepreneur my business and my family are intertwined.  For me that means I stop trying to compartmentalize each into a box, but instead embrace them both and acknowledge that they are circles that overlap.”  Kim Shanahan

“Going for your goals in big ways will alternately knock the wind right out of you and send you flying so fast your eyes tear, so you need to have lots of great support. You need people who will cheerlead when that’s what’s required, hold you accountable when you start to waiver, be a shoulder or an ear when you have to let something out, and help you CELEBRATE when you succeed!” Payson Cooper

“I’ve learned survival, creativity, quick thinking, and how to adapt to change quickly. With these strengths, I’ve been able to grow personally and professionally, and with a tad less fear.” Susan Vernicek

“…allowing my children to see me keep working even when things get tough, admit my mistakes and never give up (even when I fail) instills in them the confidence to try things that are scary, to keep trying and to never give up.  And, in my view, those are some of the best things you can teach your kids.” Deena Fischer, Esq.

“…to believe in what I do and be passionate about it.” Amy Caro

“Dare yourself to actually accomplish what you set out to do. I hated making initial contact calls … I was unsure of myself and felt vulnerable. Once I sucked it up, it got easier and the doors opened wide. So do it, even if it you don’t want to!” Carolyn Herfurth

“Just because you build it, doesn’t mean that they will come. You have to go out and get it!  Take action daily.”  Elaine Morales

“I cannot do it all…the support of family, friends and my customers is empowering me while on this incredible journey.”  Lisa Gundersen

“I’m only as good as the strength of my team. And, that I have to continually grow as a person- to be courageous, to stay in action, and to make the very best use of my time.” Melody Stevens

“While my passion fuels my work to transform the way we view and move through grief, my mission to create meaning in this world is more than ME operating in my own little bubble. :) We are always connected to each other, even when we don’t see it, and TOGETHER, we inspire, transform and inform.” Claire Gillenson

“I can’t have every I dotted and every T crossed…sometimes I am the smartest person in the room; so own it and don’t make excuses for it.” Leslie Josel

“You don’t reach a point where everything gets perfect, easy, and smooth, or wake up and discover that suddenly there’s no more fear or self-doubt or panic. You can, however, get quicker at identifying the downward spiral before it becomes a free-fall, and pulling yourself up and out. You can look at your own patterns more objectively and consciously choose paths that serve you better, and find grace and gratitude in any moment.” Jennifer Zwiebel

“I’ve learned that I control my destiny.” Lindsay Vastola

“…to say no louder and more often with a big fat smile on my face.  Learning when to say no is far more important than when to say yes.” Patty Lennon

“I’ve learned to be less rigid, welcome change and challenge- because it always means forward motion and teaches some lesson; to roll with the punches and make quick adjustments.” Annette Frey

“GO BIG OR GO HOME!!!” Fortune favors the bold so I learned to reach higher and further than I ever dreamed before.”  Precious L. Williams, Esq.

“Stay focused, do not get sidetracked by bright shiny objects, be in love with what you do and to keep connecting with people because some of the best connections I’ve made from 10 years ago still bear fruit.” Sheevaun O’Connor Moran

“I’ve learned that consistency is key to my success!” Annette Naif

“…to work through my fear of approaching and talking to people I don’t know.” Emily DeWan

“To be proactive rather than reactive. It takes less time and effort to prevent problems than it does to solve them.” Antoinette de Janasz

It’s remarkable what you can learn from another woman’s journey. I hope their lessons connect you to their passion and encourage you to rise above whatever is holding you back from living the life you were meant to live.

Vanessa Coppes

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Oily Skin

Know Your Skin Type: Oily Skin

For a very long time, I assumed my skin type was oily, because every hour I would pass the back of my hand along my t-zone to remove the excessive oil that accumulated. And, if I wanted to, I could use that oil to moisturize my hands. No exaggeration.

I learned however, that I had combination skin, which later, as I got older, and due to hormonal changes turned into oily skin. It can be somewhat confusing, and if you are confused, this is for you. Skin type falls into one of the following 5 categories. Oily, Normal, Combination, Dry, Sensitive.  The next five posts will focus on each skin type and how to best treat it.

In her book, “Beauty the New Basics,”  Rona Berg details the five different skin types, and how best to determine which category you fall into. Berg suggests you take the “skin test.” Wash your face, pat it dry, then take a few pieces of rice paper or lens-cleaning tissue paper and press on different spots on your face. If your skin is oily, the paper will stick, pick up oily spots and become translucent. If the paper doesn’t stick or pick up any oily spots, your skin is dry. If it sticks in your t-zone (forehead, nose and chin) then you have combination skin.

First up, oily skin, which is usually defined by large pores, shininess, some tightness, blemishes and pimples. The great benefit of oily skin however, is that it’s not prone to premature wrinkling and aging. Proper care can turn this problem into an asset later on. Here are some tips to follow daily. Remember, consistency is the key.

  • Do not scrub. Rather, wash, gently, twice daily with a mild cleanser. You do not want to remove all the natural sebum (oil) from your skin. This will only stimulate the oil glands to produce more oil to compensate for what was lost and this can be even more problematic.
  • Avoid Alcohol based astringents. Use a milder variety.
  • Though some would advise not to use a moisturizer everyday, my dermatologist has assured me that it’s ok to moisturizer up to twice daily after washing. But, be sure to use  a non-oily, SPF moisturizer. It’s one of the best things i’ve ever done for my skin. I moisturize 365 days per year.
  • Choose oil-free make up products. Water-based are best, since they will not clog your pores.
  • Diet plays a very important role in controlling oily skin. Avoid starchy, sugary and processed foods. Also, stick to a low fat diet, which should include fresh fruit, vegetables and grain, and be sure to drink lots of water daily.
  • If your take vitamins, your daily intake should include, vitamins should include A, B complex and C.

Be sure to consult your dermatologist if the above tips do not work. Your skin may require a retinoid or some other prescribed topical.

So, tell us, what’s your skin type, and how do you treat it? Leave us a comment below, we’d love to hear from you.