Are you happy with your appearance? If the answer is no, you are not alone.
More of us than ever are signing up for gym memberships and cosmetic surgery procedures because we aren’t happy with the way we look, but what really is the definition of beauty and who says what is beauty and what isn’t? Our tagline here at BELLA Magazine is Beauty Defined by You so we spoke to Dr. Dennis Schimpf and explored how we can rate our body confidence.
A study conducted by Chapman University found that men and women are about as equally unimpressed with their own appearances. Out of 12,176 respondents, only 26 per cent of women were extremely satisfied with their looks, and just 28 per cent of men were.
Dr. Dennis Schimpf, founder of Sweetgrass Plastic Surgery and author of new book Finding Beauty: Think, See and Feel Beautiful, says: “The definition of beauty changes over time, but ultimately, you can’t just think it or see it; it has to be felt. Not everyone needs plastic surgery, nor is it going to fix every person’s life”.
“Many people really aren’t confident in their own skin,” says Dr. Schimpf. “It’s often because different stages of life have different impacts on our body, our appearance, and how we feel about ourselves”.
Dr. Schimpf says people can rate their own body confidence by answering these five questions in terms of low, moderate or high confidence:
Are you satisfied with your outward appearance?
Low confidence scorers are usually feeling and seeing the effects of age and are frustrated, sensing that their physical flaws are affecting their self-identity. Those on the high end say their physical flaws don’t detract from their overall happiness and productivity.
How self-conscious are you?
Low confidence about appearance can worsen over time and hamper people in other areas. These are people who feel their appearance and others noticing it makes them more self-conscious of other shortcomings they have. As a result they feel hesitant to engage in some activities in order to avoid feeling judged and uncomfortable.
Are you reunion-ready?
Many people are hesitant to attend high school reunions because their appearance has significantly worsened, in their mind, over the years. If you were headed to a high school reunion tomorrow, where you were going to see people you have not seen in years, how confident would you feel? Those rating low confidence will find some way not to go because of how they feel about themselves.”
What physical change would you make?
Just about everyone has a physical feature that bothers them. It may be something you’ve had since childhood. For women, it could be changes resulting from childbearing. For men and women, it can be the natural body changes that come with aging. On the other hand, many like the uniqueness that their body quirks give them.
Would making a physical change make a real difference in your life?
That’s a hard question people must ask themselves, those with low confidence usually say it would make everything better, from relationships to opportunities. Those of moderate confidence in themselves say fixing a flaw that bothers them wouldn’t change the other stressors in their life.
“Whatever stage you’re at in life, it’s important to see how your appearance relates to how you feel about yourself on the outside and on the inside,” Dr. Schimpf says.
We believe that beauty is what shines from the inside and that relates to how we look and feel on the outside! Let us know what beauty means to you. You can find out more information on Dr. Schimpf at www.sweetgrassplasticsurgery.com and his new book at https://drdennisschimpf.com/book/.